Tag Archive | love

The Act of Giving

IMG_1523

LOVE IS GIVING

Good morning everybody!

First of all I’d like to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for liking my blog.

I am lucky to have been given the opportunity to change many negative things in my life. The last weeks were a time of transformation and learning in the deepest of ways. I am always amazed at the precious lessons that just come when one is truly ready.

One of these is the act of giving. Are you a giving person? Or do you expect people to give first, before you do something in return? Think about it…And most importantly, does it come from the heart?

Growing up poor, I never had much, but I remember always giving everything I had. I shared gladly and never expected anything in return. When I look back, I think that is one of the reasons, why I received so much fortune in my adult life. However, over the years my attitude changed and somewhere along the way, I lost this incredible act of giving.

During the time when I was having what I call “my 5 minutes with cancer” (that my reference to it), I experienced an incredible amount of love and giving from friends, who gave without even thinking about it. Friends who bathed me when I couldn’t raise my arms, who stayed with me when I was afraid of being alone, friends that drove me to my appointments when I was weak or friends who took me to the hospital in the middle of the night, when I couldn’t breath. Those were acts of giving, that I will never forget.

This world has turned into a selfish one, where people are only thinking about what they can get out of any situation. It’s a “me, me, me” society. Few give without expecting in return, not knowing that that is the key to living a plentiful life. When you begin to make giving a part of your life, just for the act of giving and not for the act of receiving, your life will take a dramatic change. Why? Because when you give from your heart, you make lots of room to receive. It’s like if you have a handful of peanuts in your hands. If you hold on to them all the time, then you will never have space to receive more peanuts. I know it’s a simple example, but that is just they way it is.

So today’s challenge: Do something nice for someone you care about, just because you want to and just because your heart tells you to. Whether it’s a phone call with loving words, some flowers or maybe baking them a cake. I’m sure that you will feel wonderful because you’ve made someone smile and feel special…and that my friends is one of the most incredible feelings, you can experience living here, right now on this amazing planet.

Much love,

Daisy

Advertisements

Daisy’s seed of Inspiration

IMG_0147Try it out…..

Let’s spread some love over the phone today!

Is there someone in your life that you haven’t talk to in a long time? Or maybe you had a fight with?

Then call them today and tell them that you are sorry. Tell them you care!

It doesn’t matter what the outcome is, as long as you do it from the heart.

I promise you’ll feel much better!

Facing the pain of a broken heart

IMG_1523

When my second marriage fell apart, I thought that I was living out a scene in the movie “Groundhog Day”. Or was it called a deja-vu? Anyway, it was definitely something that I had experienced before, although I had promised myself, that this would never happen to me again. Well, there you go! Don’t ever say “never again” because you just might end up on square one again. Why do these things happen? Well, today I can say “it doesn’t matter” or “it’s part of my learning experience”, but back then, I was devastated, full of pain and left asking myself one of the most asked questions of our time,”Why me?”

After all, this was the man of my dreams and exactly 5 years later, I was unhappy and angry. He didn’t get along very well with my son and in the end, I had to make a choice. My soul mate or my son. I choice my son and left the man, whom I had given 100% of my weeping heart to. It was the hardest thing I ever did. There wasn’t a day in the year after I left him, that I didn’t long for him or wish that we could fix everything up between us. I worked like a maniac to forget the pain. Then, after one year of heartache, I decided to move back to the USA. Yes, that was the solution to my problem or so I thought. To go back “home” after 16 years of living in Germany. To escape the pain and let the wounds heal far, far away. Well, guess what? It wasn’t!

It’s a curious thing…why do we think when we have problems or are heart-broken, that if we move to another place or heck another stratosphere, that everything will just go away? Is this, this “out of sight, out of mind” thing. Do we truly believe that if we hit the road from our problems, that everything will be alright then? Well, hell yeah! At least for the moment.

Well, guess what? And this is the lesson to be learned! You take your heart and the wounds and the problems, almost definitely, along with you!

I decided to write about this today, because a good friend of mine, just got his heart broken not too ago. He decided to take up a job in Chile. I told him honestly, that I thought that he was mad. Then, he asked me why? Here is my answer:

Because one takes a big part of his broken heart with him, but still leaves a piece of it behind“.

Then he asked me, what exactly was it that I left behind?

I answered: “Everything I took for granted like true friends from the soul, my son, but most definitely a big part of whom I’ve become. The pain I took with me could only be resolved in the place I left behind, otherwise it would still be haunting me today“.

And this is true. It only took me 5 months in California, $25,000  and two transatlantic moves to realize it!

In the end, I had to come back, face my fears and carry my weeping heart through the whole mess I had left behind. It ended in divorce, then more pain when I found out that he found someone new. It was horrendous, but every day turned into another month and, although I couldn’t imagine it, life got better. My true friends helped me thru it all. My incredible strength and determination not to let anything break me, did eventually prevail. And then I got breast cancer.

I could have fallen, I could have given up. But no!..I chose once and for all to change. To once and for all let go of all the hurt and the anger of the past, that was like a film of toxic oil hovering over my cells, suffocating the health and joy out of my life. And I’m glad I did.

Today I choose to live in the presence and no longer look to the past, for it is over and done. I am truly blessed and happy to be alive.

Thanks for reading!

Daisy

My Cancer Erasing Tips

IMG_1156

Smilies save my life!

Yes, I want you to take good look at this picture of me. It was a while ago, but heck I was looking pretty that day. It was mother’s day and I had just eaten lunch with my son. No one in the restaurant noticed that underneath the wig, I was bald as an eagle. No one noticed the permanent make-up on my brows. No one saw a woman who was having a rendezvous with cancer. Now, I do use this word “Rendezvous” deliberately, because I have banned all negative terminology when it comes to dealing with cancer. And now I’ll explain why.

We always use these, in my opinion, awful words like killing and fighting against cancer. Hell, that just makes me depressed. I don’t want any killing going on in my body. Why can’t we concentrate on words like promoting health or finding ways to help the cancer to go into remission? I, from the beginning of my encounter with cancer until now, never saw it as something negative in my life. I accepted the fact, that I had to deal with it and chose to do it in a positive way. I knew that my body was asking for help and that I had to change something in my life.

So I’m going to tell you what I did and still do. Every night as I lay in my warm and cuddly bed, I close my eyes and visual my immune system cells being smilies :). Yes, these cute little creatures, that sure do put a smile on my face. I picture them bouncing around my body, looking for those unhappy cancer cells. Those, who just couldn’t help it, after all the years of being inundated with negative feelings like anger, hate and bitterness and eventually got sick. So I see these smilies bouncing up and down and then as they come into contact with cancer cells, I literally see them hugging the unhappy cells to death. As they are being hugged, they fall into a deep sleep and just disappear into air. This picture makes me smile, because it’s filled with love and positive energy. After doing this, I fall asleep felling really happy.

There are so many studies, that prove that your thoughts have a great influence on your body chemistry. Does anyone read this stuff? I mean our bodies are amazing. Genuine wonders! I truly believe that a body has the power to heal itself. I mean, it always has. If we get a cut, then it heals all by itself. We don’t have to tell it to close the wound. Our bodies function perfectly for all of our lives. We never have to concentrate on repairing cells because it just does it automatically. So why question our bodies when something like cancer shows up? How about accepting it and learning the lesson that it’s trying to show you.

Other things that I believe are wonderful, when it comes to dealing with cancer are meditation and exercise. They have really helped me to feel healthy and stay happy all through my, as I call it “10 Minutes with Cancer”. I recently saw a report about how cancer cells live from sugar in our bodies. It’s called “Feed a cold, starve a cancer“. Since then, I’ve been eating very low carb and feel incredibly energetic. I thought it would be harder for me, because hell I’m just a chocolate freak. I sure do love eating this stuff. But, I don’t stress myself out. I just go with the flow and see where this incredible journey is taking me.

Funny enough as I’m writing, a picture of my favorite dessert “Death by Chocolate” just popped into my head. Now that would be my way to go. Hahaha.

Keep smiling!!!

Daisy