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Perfection – Everything happens for a reason…..

Everything happens for reason…….

Perfection

Good morning my friends! I hope you that are doing as great as I am today. Well, now you are probably asking yourself, what has happened to me so that I feel so great. Did I get a great new job? Did I fall in love? Did I win the lottery? …..hmmmm. The truth is, that absolutely nothing is happening. Ok…and that’s good?

First, I’ll tell you what I would have done one year ago before my illness. I would have panicked and tried to find something to worry about. I would have gone crazy thinking about the fact that I don’t have a job and the fact that my finances are diminishing and that the man I feel in love with, turned out to be just the opposite of what I thought. I would have been devastated and unhappy. But today, I sit here quietly, patiently and truly determined that everything is exactly the way it is supposed to be. How is this even possible? Yes, I’ve learned to let go and let GOD (or the universe or whatever you want to call it :D)

This is a major transformation for me and you know what? It works. I’ve learned to accept the situation that I’m going thru right now and believe with all my heart, that it is exactly the place where I need to be. I used to live in what I called UNCERTAINTY. That means not being sure what was coming, but also not believing that everything was the way it should be. Kind of like hoping for something better, but not believing something great would happen.

Now I am living in CERTAINTY. These changes have taken place over the last 6 weeks after everything in my life seemed to fall apart yet again. I could have said “didn’t I have enough”, but no!!! I refused to see myself as a victim of life. Instead, I have realize one thing and this is that we all have at some point difficulties with this word called PATIENCE. Sometimes we have very little of it. We all seem to want everything as fast as possible, even if in the end, we know what great changes needs TIME.

So, I am sitting here with a smile on my face, sharing my thoughts with you and hoping that you can realize too, that everything happens for a reason. Everything is perfect, just like our bodies and this universe. Everything works in total perfection and this is the way our lives work too. So, even if we can’t see the connection and the “why” of it all at this time, my friends, and you too are going thru some bad times at the moment, know for sure that there is one.

I can guarantee you, that when you let go and let life make its way and truly believe that there a lesson to be learned, everything begins to get easier and you will be filled an inner peace that will fill your very existence. And that alone is truly comforting.

Thanks for reading!

Big hug.

Daisy

Today is International NO-CALORIE Day!

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Take the challenge today ! Stop worrying for one day, yes just one day, about what you can, should or shouldn’t eat.

If you been reading my blog, you know that I am a firm believer of positive thinking. But, this here goes beyond that. It about a question that’s been haunting me for many years. Why do people stress themselves out when it comes to eating and food? There are like a bazillion books on diets out there on the market today. You shouldn’t eat this and you can’t eat that…bla, bla bla. Heck, if we were to put all these books together, the only thing we’d probably be able to eat was paper. I see it now. Us chewing on recycled tissues, because after all they are friendly for the environment and they have like zero calories. Wait a second! Aren’t the models on “Heidi’s Top Model” doing this?

I mean seriously, it’s like telling someone not to think of a pink elephant. Of course, they are going to think about it. So, if you are telling yourself “I shouldn’t eat this absolutely delicious-super-duper-chewy-chocolate german cake and thinking about how many calories and fat it has, then guess what? You are probably, going to wind up eating it at some point or another. Just because you are depriving yourself of it. I also know for sure, that after you’ve eaten it (no rather like stuffed it), you will walk around the whole day hating yourself and having guilty feelings, just because you ate it. One question: Do you think that you any different from me? Well, not really. The only difference is that when I decide to eat that piece of cake, I will be enjoying it, savoring every single piece I put into my mouth, and I will be telling myself the whole time, how truly blessed I am to be alive to be able to eat this cake. And also how much I truly deserve it!

Yes, I know what you are thinking! Little Mrs.Daisy is thin, she doesn’t have to worry about dieting, she can eat everything she wants. Wrong! But then again true at the same time. True, I am thin and I can eat whatever I want. But it’s not like I won’t gain weight and like have a metabolism like a marathon runner. No, it’s only because I choose to eat whatever I pleasure and truly enjoy every single bite I eat, without ever stressing myself out about the calorie content, if it’s healthy or not or heck, even if it’s swimming in lard. That doesn’t matter! My secret is that I have fun eating, I eat slow and when I’m feel satisfied, I just stop.

Believe or not, I too used to have massive issues with my weight many years ago. I was the roller coaster queen of gaining and losing weight. When I think back, I remember how I used to stress myself out counting calories, depriving myself of the things that I thought where “bad” for my figure. I was on every diet that came out and promised it was THE diet. And guess? Nothing helped, well at least in the long run. It wasn’t until I finally let go of the power that I was giving to my food, that my weight problems disappeared. I no longer cared what anyone was saying or writing about food. I took control and decided myself what was good for me. Thank God, because now I don’t have these dialogs going on in my head, that prevented me from just living and enjoying everything, including food.

Did you know that everything you resist is stress for your body. It doesn’t matter if its real stress, like something threatening your life or a thought out stress, like you’ll get fat if you eat this or that. Either way your body reacts with the production of stress hormones, that are originally supposed to be there to help you fight or flee. Today we don’t have to run for our lives or fight a lion, but sometimes we have to fight with our bosses or children.

Fact is, it doesn’t matter if your worrying about bills, your health or about food. Stress is stress and when hormones like Insulin and Cortisol are produced, you can do whatever you want, but you won’t lose any weight. So I figure it out this way. Why not just enjoy the foods you love once in a while, savor them while you’re eating them and know that when you are feeling good, you are actually doing something positive for your body.

So with all this said, I now proclaim today as International NO calorie (counting) Day and hope that you will take advantage of this opportunity to let go and enjoy something you haven’t eaten in a while. Give yourself permission to be free of worries about food and allow the joy that life is meant to be, to take over at least for one day.

Thanks for reading.

Daisy

Facing the pain of a broken heart

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When my second marriage fell apart, I thought that I was living out a scene in the movie “Groundhog Day”. Or was it called a deja-vu? Anyway, it was definitely something that I had experienced before, although I had promised myself, that this would never happen to me again. Well, there you go! Don’t ever say “never again” because you just might end up on square one again. Why do these things happen? Well, today I can say “it doesn’t matter” or “it’s part of my learning experience”, but back then, I was devastated, full of pain and left asking myself one of the most asked questions of our time,”Why me?”

After all, this was the man of my dreams and exactly 5 years later, I was unhappy and angry. He didn’t get along very well with my son and in the end, I had to make a choice. My soul mate or my son. I choice my son and left the man, whom I had given 100% of my weeping heart to. It was the hardest thing I ever did. There wasn’t a day in the year after I left him, that I didn’t long for him or wish that we could fix everything up between us. I worked like a maniac to forget the pain. Then, after one year of heartache, I decided to move back to the USA. Yes, that was the solution to my problem or so I thought. To go back “home” after 16 years of living in Germany. To escape the pain and let the wounds heal far, far away. Well, guess what? It wasn’t!

It’s a curious thing…why do we think when we have problems or are heart-broken, that if we move to another place or heck another stratosphere, that everything will just go away? Is this, this “out of sight, out of mind” thing. Do we truly believe that if we hit the road from our problems, that everything will be alright then? Well, hell yeah! At least for the moment.

Well, guess what? And this is the lesson to be learned! You take your heart and the wounds and the problems, almost definitely, along with you!

I decided to write about this today, because a good friend of mine, just got his heart broken not too ago. He decided to take up a job in Chile. I told him honestly, that I thought that he was mad. Then, he asked me why? Here is my answer:

Because one takes a big part of his broken heart with him, but still leaves a piece of it behind“.

Then he asked me, what exactly was it that I left behind?

I answered: “Everything I took for granted like true friends from the soul, my son, but most definitely a big part of whom I’ve become. The pain I took with me could only be resolved in the place I left behind, otherwise it would still be haunting me today“.

And this is true. It only took me 5 months in California, $25,000  and two transatlantic moves to realize it!

In the end, I had to come back, face my fears and carry my weeping heart through the whole mess I had left behind. It ended in divorce, then more pain when I found out that he found someone new. It was horrendous, but every day turned into another month and, although I couldn’t imagine it, life got better. My true friends helped me thru it all. My incredible strength and determination not to let anything break me, did eventually prevail. And then I got breast cancer.

I could have fallen, I could have given up. But no!..I chose once and for all to change. To once and for all let go of all the hurt and the anger of the past, that was like a film of toxic oil hovering over my cells, suffocating the health and joy out of my life. And I’m glad I did.

Today I choose to live in the presence and no longer look to the past, for it is over and done. I am truly blessed and happy to be alive.

Thanks for reading!

Daisy

Acceptance is the key

How do I go on when life gets really hard?

The first step is acceptance…I know this may sound hard. And it is. But if you can come to the point, where you truly believe that everything happens for a reason, you are on the right track. Yes, it easier said than done. But it is possible. It is in the moment, when you realize that the only thing that is really, really sure, is change. Everything always changes, nothing ever stays the same. You have to truly believe with all your heart, that you deserve something better. Sometimes we cling to the old because it’s comfortable and because we are afraid of change. Believe me I can speak from experience. But I can guarantee, that if you start taking care of you’re own needs rather than waiting for a man or anyone to do this, then things will change. When you realize that you have to love yourself before anyone can love you back. When you follow your bliss and do things that make you smile. Whatever that may be. When you are kind and loving to yourself and realize that you are the most important person on this planet. Forget about the past for its is done. You did your best. Everybody did the best that they could at that given moment. Forget about the future because life comes like it comes. Ask most people who plan things. Accept this moment, even if its painful and know deep in your heart, that it will get better in the moment you let go and let happen.

Why do we spend so much time in the past?

If you are going back over your life, focusing on the difficulties of the past, you are just projecting more difficulties into the now. If there’s one wonderful thing that you can do for yourself now, then letting go of the past would have to be it. Yes, I know how difficult this is because I’ve been there.

foto.jpg Spending my time lamenting, hating, being in a state of anger at people or events or even regretting things I didn’t say in the past. What I realized over the years was that doing this prevented me from enjoying this moment and from seeing the little but wonderful things in life. If you are spending most of the time reliving events of the past, you are missing out on what’s going on in front of your face. Also, if you are holding on to negative feelings or blaming someone, then you are taking it all with you into the present and harming yourself. Think about it!. Maybe this could haven been a moment that was important for you, a moment that would have given you a clue as how to go on, or maybe to change something. Maybe someone smiled at you, but you didn’t see it, because you were mad about the past. So, you just missed it. Isn’t that a shame?

How do you start? Well, how about right away, knowing that I truly believe in you! I started reminding myself every single day to remain in the present and since then everything changed for me. At first it was hard and I often had to bring myself to this moment like most of the day. But, as time went on, it became easier and these days I’m living about 90% in the present. I now see and am so grateful for the many splendid things that where there before, but I just couldn’t see. Simple things, like finally seeing the true color of  my friends’ eyes or the beautiful daisy’s growing just across the road. Funny enough, they were always there, waiting for me to take in their beauty. They waited patiently for me. Life is wonderful!