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HAPPY NEW YEAR MY FRIENDS!!!

As I look back at 2013, I see a year filled with endings, changes and a big transformation in my life. Still, I am filled with gratitude and happiness even if, I muss say it was a trying year. I am thankful for still being here and enjoying every single minute of this wonderful life.

I am more focused and aware of how important the hard times are, in order for us to grow and become the incredible humans that we all are. I have learned to trust more in THE Higher Power and remember that, in that moment, where difficulties arrive, I cannot see the bigger picture. I have also learned to stop listening to that VOICE inside my head, telling me that I’m not good enough and that I won’t amount to anything. That was a hard one! Finally, I have managed, most of the time, to stay in the NOW, be present and not go back to the past or put my projections onto the future.

So in the end, it was an incredible year for my growth and for my development. 2013 strengthened my desire to give more love, judge less, have trust and patience that everything in my life is exactly the way it is supposed to be.

For the first time, I have no idea where I am going, but I am not afraid. I have no job and this week, I was told that I have 3 months to move out of my apartment. 2 years ago, I would have been in total panic and stressed out. At the moment, I see life like an unfinished book and I am on a journey. I have no idea how it will turn out, still, I am totally excited and curious where life will take me. I truly believe that wherever I end up will be the right place for me.

Now that is some good piece of news….hahahaha!

Thanks for reading….. much Love Daisy

 

Why is it so hard to love ourselves first?

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What do you say, feel and think when look in the mirror? Are these positive statements like, “I am truly wonderful just the way I am” or more like ” I look terrible today” or “I am so stupid”? Did you ever stop to think that there might be a big connection between loving yourself and how people see or even treat you? “But how can I love myself Daisy, I’m don’t like the way I look and I’m always making mistakes. But the worse part of it is that I’m always comparing myself to others”. Well, let me help you out a little there. Maybe that’s exactly the problem. I mean comparing yourself to everyone else. Or worse just concentrating on all the things you might not like. Honey, you are just not aware how truly wonderful you are. Everyone is. Thank God that everyone looks different and thinks different, that’s just the beauty of it all. It’s the versatility of colors and shapes and heritages that makes this planet so incredible. If everyone looked the same, boy would this be a really dull planet. Every single person and I do mean every single one of us is unique in his own way and deserves to be appreciated and loved. And it’s truly wonderful be able to love such a big variety of people.With this said, there is one important thing that you must understand. No one can truly love you and nothing will change, if you don’t learn to love yourself first.

It took me a long time to get this. I mean I’m almost 48 years old and I’ve been hearing these two words for almost 30 years. Love yourself. I too, couldn’t in my wildest dreams imagine that someday, I would be able to say these words to myself and really, really mean them. I hated myself for most of my life. I mean, the experiences I had, made me feel like I just wasn’t worthy of a happy and successful life. Some of it unconsciously. Some of it self-imposed. But today I have accomplished what many women are still finding hard to do. Love themselves.

Everybody has a story and everybody goes through bad times in their lives. Well let me tell you now, I’m the queen of drama. From growing up poor, never experiencing love from my mother, being sexually abused as a child, overeating, being bulimic, broken-hearted so many times to getting breast cancer. Sometimes I’m so surprised that I didn’t end up in the loony bin, because I have had many a reason to. But no, I am truly amazed as to how I managed to always, like the phoenix, arise from my own ashes. There were plenty of reasons to hate myself. I wasn’t white, I had curly hair, I wasn’t tall enough, I wasn’t skinny enough. And because I couldn’t look like my friends or some sized zero Hollywood scarlet, I just deprived myself of love. I wasn’t good enough. This is what I sad to myself for many, many years.

I thought that if I only accomplished to be all these things, life would then bring me happiness. Well guess what? WRONG!

How did I get out of it you want to know? Miraculously enough, I just decided one day to just stop! I got tired of looking in the mirror and saying nasty things to myself. I became really aware of the negative words that I was thinking and decided that if I didn’t accept myself exactly the way I was, nothing would ever change. So, I started saying positive things to myself everyday. At first it was hard, because I hated just about everything. But I started small. First it was my hands and my eyes, then my lips and my feet. Later my humor and my friendliness. I started writing down all the things that made me unique.

With time, I felt a bit better about myself. So much better that I started working out. I at that point I was thin, but I really didn’t have to look like a skeleton. I no longer wanted a body like Kate Moss, rather just the best body that I could achieve for my age. I. As time went on, I started to feel good. That’s when people started complementing me. But this time I didn’t say “Thank you” and mean “Yeah, yeah you’re just saying that”. I really began to accept and appreciated it from the bottom of my heart. I started to believe in myself. Then one day it really hit me and I realized just how special I truly am. I no longer felt the need to look like anybody else but myself, because I was pretty wonderful just like that. Finally, I could look in the mirror and say ” Woman, you are just damn fine” or “I truly love you” and meant it too!.

This didn’t happen overnight. It took years for me to come to this wonderful place where I am now. But after all these years, I can say that I’ve finally come home. I like who I am and I can look in the mirror and smile. I feel the need to take care of  me all the time. And it  all began with one simple step. The will to want to change. The will to live a happy life being me. The will to be loved exactly the way I am, because in the end, I am the most important person in my life.

Thanks for reading.

Daisy

Daisy’s seed of Inspiration

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Let’s spread some love over the phone today!

Is there someone in your life that you haven’t talk to in a long time? Or maybe you had a fight with?

Then call them today and tell them that you are sorry. Tell them you care!

It doesn’t matter what the outcome is, as long as you do it from the heart.

I promise you’ll feel much better!

My Cancer Erasing Tips

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Smilies save my life!

Yes, I want you to take good look at this picture of me. It was a while ago, but heck I was looking pretty that day. It was mother’s day and I had just eaten lunch with my son. No one in the restaurant noticed that underneath the wig, I was bald as an eagle. No one noticed the permanent make-up on my brows. No one saw a woman who was having a rendezvous with cancer. Now, I do use this word “Rendezvous” deliberately, because I have banned all negative terminology when it comes to dealing with cancer. And now I’ll explain why.

We always use these, in my opinion, awful words like killing and fighting against cancer. Hell, that just makes me depressed. I don’t want any killing going on in my body. Why can’t we concentrate on words like promoting health or finding ways to help the cancer to go into remission? I, from the beginning of my encounter with cancer until now, never saw it as something negative in my life. I accepted the fact, that I had to deal with it and chose to do it in a positive way. I knew that my body was asking for help and that I had to change something in my life.

So I’m going to tell you what I did and still do. Every night as I lay in my warm and cuddly bed, I close my eyes and visual my immune system cells being smilies :). Yes, these cute little creatures, that sure do put a smile on my face. I picture them bouncing around my body, looking for those unhappy cancer cells. Those, who just couldn’t help it, after all the years of being inundated with negative feelings like anger, hate and bitterness and eventually got sick. So I see these smilies bouncing up and down and then as they come into contact with cancer cells, I literally see them hugging the unhappy cells to death. As they are being hugged, they fall into a deep sleep and just disappear into air. This picture makes me smile, because it’s filled with love and positive energy. After doing this, I fall asleep felling really happy.

There are so many studies, that prove that your thoughts have a great influence on your body chemistry. Does anyone read this stuff? I mean our bodies are amazing. Genuine wonders! I truly believe that a body has the power to heal itself. I mean, it always has. If we get a cut, then it heals all by itself. We don’t have to tell it to close the wound. Our bodies function perfectly for all of our lives. We never have to concentrate on repairing cells because it just does it automatically. So why question our bodies when something like cancer shows up? How about accepting it and learning the lesson that it’s trying to show you.

Other things that I believe are wonderful, when it comes to dealing with cancer are meditation and exercise. They have really helped me to feel healthy and stay happy all through my, as I call it “10 Minutes with Cancer”. I recently saw a report about how cancer cells live from sugar in our bodies. It’s called “Feed a cold, starve a cancer“. Since then, I’ve been eating very low carb and feel incredibly energetic. I thought it would be harder for me, because hell I’m just a chocolate freak. I sure do love eating this stuff. But, I don’t stress myself out. I just go with the flow and see where this incredible journey is taking me.

Funny enough as I’m writing, a picture of my favorite dessert “Death by Chocolate” just popped into my head. Now that would be my way to go. Hahaha.

Keep smiling!!!

Daisy

Why do we stress ourselves out?

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Yesterday while having dinner with a friend, we had the most interesting conversation about people and stress. I thought this might be a good theme for Daisy’s question of the day? It started with a simple fact that a lot of women feel the necessity to tidy up the couch pillows and leave the kitchen sparkling before they go to bed. It doesn’t matter how tired they are, if they are sick or living alone. Everything has to look pico bello perfect. For whom? Well…. just in case the president of the United States stops by? Are you kidding me?!!! My friend thought about it for a second and said well “I do it because I feel that I have to it” and “I don’t like the mess”? I asked her if she didn’t tidy up the mess, would anyone complain about the pillows”. Well no” she said “just me!” I looked at her and said “Honey, you don’t have to do crap!”. The only thing that anyone has to do is breath and eat and ok go to the toilet, but basically we don’t HAVE TO DO anything.

I mean, we all know that stress is awful and being under stress for long periods can actually influence our health. So WHY do we do this to ourselves? Frankly, we have enough stress in our daily lives. At the job, at home, heck with our spouses. Wouldn’t it be so much better, if we took those 15-20 Minutes and spent it on ourselves? How about making yourself a cup of tea and looking out at the stars or putting on that moisture mask and flipping thru your favorites mags. Come on, there are lots of things that could make you feel good or put a smile on your face. I’m pretty sure that if you do this instead of folding that blanket and arranging the pillows, that the world won’t stop liking you. 

And just in case the president should stop by, then tell him that your cleaning lady just quit!

Hugs

Daisy

Why do we wait for others to make us happy, instead of doing it ourselves?

 

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Yes, I know you might have the kid and husband thing going on and maybe working that full-time job is keeping you busy. You don’t seem to find the time to do the things you want or that fun stuff that makes you smile. Maybe, you think that other people have to take care of these needs and buy you flowers or heck, just say nice things to you, so that you know that you are a great person. Well, I’m here to shake you up and tell you something else. You are a great person. Actually you are and should be the most important person in your life!!! “Huhhhh, but why?” I hear you asking. Well yes, because no one is really responsible for your happiness except for yourself!

I know, I know….we hear this all the time. And maybe, you are aware of this principle, but can’t seem to kind incorporate it into your life, because it’s just damn work or it’s hard. Fact is, that when you rely on others to bring you happiness, then you are on the road to disappointment. People can do nice things for you and of course, one should always be grateful for such people in our lives. But in the end, true happiness comes from being at peace with oneself from the inside. From knowing that you are wonderful (no matter what you think of yourself) and that you truly deserve to be treated like a goddess (or a god). You should treat yourself exactly how you would want people to treat you. That’s the first step. And I’ll repeat again: To treat yourself exactly how you would like people to treat you. Why? Because you are unique and special and no one on this earth is like you!

So why not start today with little things like buying yourself some flowers or getting that pedicure or just sitting in the sun and eating your favorite ice cream, which you used to eat when you were a kid. And why? Well, because you’re worthy and deserve it? Do things that make you smile. Things that make you feel good. I can almost guarantee you, that when you start doing this, after a while things will automatically change. People will treat you differently. You’ll just emanate joy and good vibrations from the inside and people will feel this.

When you are the one that takes good care of yourself and are constantly making yourself happy, no matter what it is that you are doing, then you will, eventually, get rid of the exceptions you put on others in being responsible for your bliss. As a result of this, you’ll experience less and less disappointment in others, because now you don’t expect others to bring you, what you are giving yourself.

Be good to yourself every moment of your life! Because you truly are worthy of it!

Daisy

Acceptance is the key

How do I go on when life gets really hard?

The first step is acceptance…I know this may sound hard. And it is. But if you can come to the point, where you truly believe that everything happens for a reason, you are on the right track. Yes, it easier said than done. But it is possible. It is in the moment, when you realize that the only thing that is really, really sure, is change. Everything always changes, nothing ever stays the same. You have to truly believe with all your heart, that you deserve something better. Sometimes we cling to the old because it’s comfortable and because we are afraid of change. Believe me I can speak from experience. But I can guarantee, that if you start taking care of you’re own needs rather than waiting for a man or anyone to do this, then things will change. When you realize that you have to love yourself before anyone can love you back. When you follow your bliss and do things that make you smile. Whatever that may be. When you are kind and loving to yourself and realize that you are the most important person on this planet. Forget about the past for its is done. You did your best. Everybody did the best that they could at that given moment. Forget about the future because life comes like it comes. Ask most people who plan things. Accept this moment, even if its painful and know deep in your heart, that it will get better in the moment you let go and let happen.