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The Act of Giving

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LOVE IS GIVING

Good morning everybody!

First of all I’d like to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for liking my blog.

I am lucky to have been given the opportunity to change many negative things in my life. The last weeks were a time of transformation and learning in the deepest of ways. I am always amazed at the precious lessons that just come when one is truly ready.

One of these is the act of giving. Are you a giving person? Or do you expect people to give first, before you do something in return? Think about it…And most importantly, does it come from the heart?

Growing up poor, I never had much, but I remember always giving everything I had. I shared gladly and never expected anything in return. When I look back, I think that is one of the reasons, why I received so much fortune in my adult life. However, over the years my attitude changed and somewhere along the way, I lost this incredible act of giving.

During the time when I was having what I call “my 5 minutes with cancer” (that my reference to it), I experienced an incredible amount of love and giving from friends, who gave without even thinking about it. Friends who bathed me when I couldn’t raise my arms, who stayed with me when I was afraid of being alone, friends that drove me to my appointments when I was weak or friends who took me to the hospital in the middle of the night, when I couldn’t breath. Those were acts of giving, that I will never forget.

This world has turned into a selfish one, where people are only thinking about what they can get out of any situation. It’s a “me, me, me” society. Few give without expecting in return, not knowing that that is the key to living a plentiful life. When you begin to make giving a part of your life, just for the act of giving and not for the act of receiving, your life will take a dramatic change. Why? Because when you give from your heart, you make lots of room to receive. It’s like if you have a handful of peanuts in your hands. If you hold on to them all the time, then you will never have space to receive more peanuts. I know it’s a simple example, but that is just they way it is.

So today’s challenge: Do something nice for someone you care about, just because you want to and just because your heart tells you to. Whether it’s a phone call with loving words, some flowers or maybe baking them a cake. I’m sure that you will feel wonderful because you’ve made someone smile and feel special…and that my friends is one of the most incredible feelings, you can experience living here, right now on this amazing planet.

Much love,

Daisy

Did you ever hear about Mesothelioma Cancer?

Well, here I am helping out a fellow blogger on spreading the word about the cause of this type of cancer. My father suffered many years from the effects of asbestos. Maybe you can help us in getting the word out there too. Those who wish to learn more about mesothelioma can get more information at the Mesothelioma Cancer Alliance www.mesothelioma.com. Thanks and much love!

Did You Know Facts

One Year After My Diagnosis

Hi Guys!

Here I am reporting to you one year after my breast cancer diagnosis. First of all, I want to express my deepest gratitude for still being here on this wonderful planet, on this wonderful journey that keeps getting more and more interesting as time passes by. So many emotional, soul touching experiences and changes.

Wow my hair is so long now! 

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In this one year I have become another person. When I look back at what this journey did to me, I can truly say that I don’t regret one single moment of this illness. If I wouldn’t have gotten it, I would still be in the same situation and doing the same shit I did for many years and this, my friends, was stressing out myself as well as my loved ones. Planning my life, worrying about what could go wrong and making everyone responsible when things didn’t turn out the way I wanted them to be.

I got upset about things, that today seem so insignificant and so small. I sowed the seeds of self-hatred, dissatisfaction and self-destruction and then passed them on to others. Of course, the whole time not being aware of the damage I was doing to my body and soul.

Getting breast cancer was the only way to get the message thru to me. I guess. Because of this experience, I was given a new chance. A chance to see life thru a different set of eyes. Now I can stop and smell the daisies. I can enjoy the sun caressing my skin and the wind kissing my face. I can feel life pulsating thru my whole body and for this I am so grateful.

I can leave the dishes in the sink, an unmade bed, the crumbs on the floor, the water spots on the mirror and the messy pillow arrangement on the couch and guess what? Life still goes on and everyone still loves me exactly the way I am. Can you believe this? Well, sometimes I can’t because just one year ago, I thought that if I wasn’t perfect, then nobody would like me. What a ridiculous thought! But, yes, that is the way it was back then. And because I wasn’t perfect, someone had to pay for my unhappiness.

Right now I feel so blessed and although I don’t know, if I will be there in one year, what I know for sure, is that I will go on taking in every single moment of this precious life. I won’t waste one second of my time living in the past or in the future. I will live right now in this moment. I will live in the present and suck in all the beauty and all the magic that this wonderful life has to give. I will be good to myself and to others. I will share and enjoy the love and the patience and the understanding that came to me at the moment when I let go of my old self and embraced a new me.

Much love!

Daisy

P.S. Happy Birthday Dad. Wish you were here!

My decision to start a ketogenic nutrition

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Well today Daisy’s question of the day is: Can a chocoholic and pasta eating freak like me, just stop eating carbohydrates for longer than one day?

If you would have asked me, before I read “Starve a cancer, feed a cold“, which I accidentally (is there such a thing?) happen to run into on this website, I would have definitely given you a big “hell no!” But after reading it, I was honestly shocked, disgusted and yeah…just shocked again. I mean, if you’ve read my story, then you know that last year I was diagnosed with breast cancer. After I had my 5 minutes with cancer (that’s what I call it now), I do recall getting a nutritional program recommending that I eat lots of carbohydrates for energy. So basically that’s what I did. I ate lots of pasta, bread, rice etc. in the hopes of nurturing my body and making it healthy again. And, due to my positive aspect of enjoying life one day at a time, I must say I splurged often and ate tons (okay not tons, but heck quite a bit) of chocolate and sweets for that matter.

Reading the above mentioned blog, sent me literally on a mission. On a mission to find out the truth about the possible effects of sugar on potential cancer cells and/or tumors in the body. I spent many hours researching and in the end said to myself, if this is something that is known for over more than 50 years, why aren’t we doing this? Why is this not common knowledge?

I mean I live in Germany and maybe the message hasn’t gotten out here fast enough. I definitely am aware that sometimes, it does takes a while before one can to get a copy of a good american book and even a great film, but in terms of medicine…heelloooo!!! So I took a deep breath, looked at myself in the mirror and said “Girlfriend you better try this!” Just so that you get a clear picture of my situation, I’ve been feeling great ever since I stopped the chemotherapy. Recently I’ve had some blood work done and my results are truly amazing, after 4 months of meditating, letting go of the past, living in the moment and seeing my cancer as a sign from my body, that I needed to change something. I was supposed to have had 7 Chemotherapys plus radiation but only did two. During this process, I realized that I would rather die, than to put that poison into my body, but that was really a personal decision. I take my hat off to each and every cancer patient, who does all of the sessions recommended. Every single one of them deserves a medal of courage and strength for what they go through during this time with their bodies.

So back to the question of the day. Is it possible? YEEESSSS, it’s really possible! From the moment I decided that I was going to cut down on my carbohydrate/sugar intake and seeing it as something proactive for my health, I realized that I was, yet again, doing something for myself and on my own. I was taking care of me! So now let’s get down to the facts. Getting started was practically very easy. I went shopping and stacked my fridge with everything I needed and then I began eating the recommended protein, fat (I looovee avocados and nuts!!)and vegetables and surprisingly enough, I felt great and really full after every meal. I didn’t even crave any sweets for about 1 week.

Then came the temptation of a birthday party. At first, I didn’t want to eat cake, but I didn’t want to insult my friend, so I wound of eating a small piece. All I can say is: Big mistake! After that, I craved sweets for 2 days. But I didn’t give in to my craving and so I ate some almonds or sucked on a teaspoon of natural peanut butter and then everything was okay again.

It’s been almost 4 weeks now. Have I managed to keep eating low carb? Well, yes I have and I’m damn proud of it. I don’t think I’ve ever gone for more than one day without eating some kind of sugar shit. But I have to say, it’s pretty amazing, because I feel wonderful. I have tons of energy and I’m not tired in the afternoon like I used to be.

Okay, ok it’s only been 4 weeks I know and tomorrow is my birthday. Well, I’m planning on baking a low carb chocolate blueberry cake and a normal cheesecake. Lots of friends are coming over, who don’t even know that I’m doing this low carb thing. But it’s kind of exciting for me. I know that I can manage to keep doing this, if I only stay away from sugar (which has become totally easy because I sprinkle everything I used to drink or eat with sugar now with cinnamon). So there you have it!

I will eventually have to raise my carb intake, because little Miss Daisy doesn’t want to lose more weight. Reminder: I want to cut down on my sugar intake, stay healthy and eventually starve some cancer cells that might have been resistant to my “smily” therapy. You can read about this here on my blog. I will definitely keep you informed of my progress with my new way of life. Maybe someone can share their experience with me. I sure would love it!

Thanks for reading.

Hugs

Daisy

My Cancer Erasing Tips

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Smilies save my life!

Yes, I want you to take good look at this picture of me. It was a while ago, but heck I was looking pretty that day. It was mother’s day and I had just eaten lunch with my son. No one in the restaurant noticed that underneath the wig, I was bald as an eagle. No one noticed the permanent make-up on my brows. No one saw a woman who was having a rendezvous with cancer. Now, I do use this word “Rendezvous” deliberately, because I have banned all negative terminology when it comes to dealing with cancer. And now I’ll explain why.

We always use these, in my opinion, awful words like killing and fighting against cancer. Hell, that just makes me depressed. I don’t want any killing going on in my body. Why can’t we concentrate on words like promoting health or finding ways to help the cancer to go into remission? I, from the beginning of my encounter with cancer until now, never saw it as something negative in my life. I accepted the fact, that I had to deal with it and chose to do it in a positive way. I knew that my body was asking for help and that I had to change something in my life.

So I’m going to tell you what I did and still do. Every night as I lay in my warm and cuddly bed, I close my eyes and visual my immune system cells being smilies :). Yes, these cute little creatures, that sure do put a smile on my face. I picture them bouncing around my body, looking for those unhappy cancer cells. Those, who just couldn’t help it, after all the years of being inundated with negative feelings like anger, hate and bitterness and eventually got sick. So I see these smilies bouncing up and down and then as they come into contact with cancer cells, I literally see them hugging the unhappy cells to death. As they are being hugged, they fall into a deep sleep and just disappear into air. This picture makes me smile, because it’s filled with love and positive energy. After doing this, I fall asleep felling really happy.

There are so many studies, that prove that your thoughts have a great influence on your body chemistry. Does anyone read this stuff? I mean our bodies are amazing. Genuine wonders! I truly believe that a body has the power to heal itself. I mean, it always has. If we get a cut, then it heals all by itself. We don’t have to tell it to close the wound. Our bodies function perfectly for all of our lives. We never have to concentrate on repairing cells because it just does it automatically. So why question our bodies when something like cancer shows up? How about accepting it and learning the lesson that it’s trying to show you.

Other things that I believe are wonderful, when it comes to dealing with cancer are meditation and exercise. They have really helped me to feel healthy and stay happy all through my, as I call it “10 Minutes with Cancer”. I recently saw a report about how cancer cells live from sugar in our bodies. It’s called “Feed a cold, starve a cancer“. Since then, I’ve been eating very low carb and feel incredibly energetic. I thought it would be harder for me, because hell I’m just a chocolate freak. I sure do love eating this stuff. But, I don’t stress myself out. I just go with the flow and see where this incredible journey is taking me.

Funny enough as I’m writing, a picture of my favorite dessert “Death by Chocolate” just popped into my head. Now that would be my way to go. Hahaha.

Keep smiling!!!

Daisy

Why are we so afraid of death?

It is because we’ve lived a life full of sin and are afraid of judgment, when we come to the pearly gates? Or because we want to hold on to the people or to material things that we now have? It is because we haven’t done everything we planned? For of religious reasons? Whatever the reason may be, I’m here to tell you that it’s time, to let go of the fear and the negative feelings associated with it.

We all know that eventually everyone has to die. That’s a given. Change and death are the only sure things in this life. So why not accept it as something totally normal? Like brushing your teeth everyday. I know that what I’m saying may sound hard for some, but if we accept what is part of life, then we can let go and enjoy the time that we have left. We all know that we don’t necessarily have to be sick to die. This can happen at any time, any day in the presence of lots of different circumstances.

A dear friend of mine was clinically dead after a heart operation. Fortunately, the doctors brought her back and she was able talk to me about it. She described it as one of the most beautiful experiences she’s ever had. She also saw this light that people talk about and felt incredible feelings of warmth and love. We’ve all heard about these experiences sometime right? This was a breaking point for me in my life. I realized that when we accept it, then the fear starts to disappear.

I also knew a guy, who drowned 3 times while she was deep-sea diving. He also described the experience as being wonderful. He had always said, that if he had to die, drowning would be the way. Sounds horrible! But no, for him it was a wonderful experience. I remember the feeling of peace that vibrated out of him as he told me his story. He said that he saw his life flash through his eyes, also saw the light and had feelings of utter peace and love.

I’m really fortunate to have these people in my life, because they showed me that there is absolutely no reason to be afraid of dying. Of course, we will miss out on a lot of things and won’t see the people we love anymore. Can I share a secret with you? We do remain alive and that is in the hearts of the people who love us. So we won’t be able to eat chocolate and drink wine or see the sunset again. So my question now is: What the hell are you waiting for? Do these things NOW!!!! Do the things that make you happy. Meet the people who make you smile! Give someone a hug! Stop thinking about the past or about the future. Invest your energy and time in the NOW. For that’s the only thing that you’ve got.

Why do we have to get sick before we realize the truth?

Why does a woman have to wait to get sick, in this case breast cancer, before she realizes how precious every single moment of this wonderful life is?

Breast cancer is not a death sentence! And even if we don’t have that much time left and some of us may die in the process, it’s really not about what we haven’t done or what we won’t be able to do in the future. It’s really about what we are doing now. At this exact moment!

Are we doing the things that make us happy? Are we taking the time to smell the flowers and hear the birds sing? Or are we wasting our precious time lamenting and hiding behind the sickness? Yes, sicknesses are hard sometimes. But doesn’t every sickness help us realize something new about ourselves? Maybe how strong or vulnerable we are? But thinking how terrible it might get or wasting your precious energy fearing a possible future won’t change a thing. It only contributes to missing out on what is going on now. Are we trying to control things, when really the only thing we can control, is this moment? Think about it! Why not make this moment a happy one? And then the next and then the next. Then when it’s time to go, can say we did good.

So do something that puts a smile on your face today!