Daisy’s seed of Inspiration

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Let’s spread some love over the phone today!

Is there someone in your life that you haven’t talk to in a long time? Or maybe you had a fight with?

Then call them today and tell them that you are sorry. Tell them you care!

It doesn’t matter what the outcome is, as long as you do it from the heart.

I promise you’ll feel much better!

Facing the pain of a broken heart

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When my second marriage fell apart, I thought that I was living out a scene in the movie “Groundhog Day”. Or was it called a deja-vu? Anyway, it was definitely something that I had experienced before, although I had promised myself, that this would never happen to me again. Well, there you go! Don’t ever say “never again” because you just might end up on square one again. Why do these things happen? Well, today I can say “it doesn’t matter” or “it’s part of my learning experience”, but back then, I was devastated, full of pain and left asking myself one of the most asked questions of our time,”Why me?”

After all, this was the man of my dreams and exactly 5 years later, I was unhappy and angry. He didn’t get along very well with my son and in the end, I had to make a choice. My soul mate or my son. I choice my son and left the man, whom I had given 100% of my weeping heart to. It was the hardest thing I ever did. There wasn’t a day in the year after I left him, that I didn’t long for him or wish that we could fix everything up between us. I worked like a maniac to forget the pain. Then, after one year of heartache, I decided to move back to the USA. Yes, that was the solution to my problem or so I thought. To go back “home” after 16 years of living in Germany. To escape the pain and let the wounds heal far, far away. Well, guess what? It wasn’t!

It’s a curious thing…why do we think when we have problems or are heart-broken, that if we move to another place or heck another stratosphere, that everything will just go away? Is this, this “out of sight, out of mind” thing. Do we truly believe that if we hit the road from our problems, that everything will be alright then? Well, hell yeah! At least for the moment.

Well, guess what? And this is the lesson to be learned! You take your heart and the wounds and the problems, almost definitely, along with you!

I decided to write about this today, because a good friend of mine, just got his heart broken not too ago. He decided to take up a job in Chile. I told him honestly, that I thought that he was mad. Then, he asked me why? Here is my answer:

Because one takes a big part of his broken heart with him, but still leaves a piece of it behind“.

Then he asked me, what exactly was it that I left behind?

I answered: “Everything I took for granted like true friends from the soul, my son, but most definitely a big part of whom I’ve become. The pain I took with me could only be resolved in the place I left behind, otherwise it would still be haunting me today“.

And this is true. It only took me 5 months in California, $25,000  and two transatlantic moves to realize it!

In the end, I had to come back, face my fears and carry my weeping heart through the whole mess I had left behind. It ended in divorce, then more pain when I found out that he found someone new. It was horrendous, but every day turned into another month and, although I couldn’t imagine it, life got better. My true friends helped me thru it all. My incredible strength and determination not to let anything break me, did eventually prevail. And then I got breast cancer.

I could have fallen, I could have given up. But no!..I chose once and for all to change. To once and for all let go of all the hurt and the anger of the past, that was like a film of toxic oil hovering over my cells, suffocating the health and joy out of my life. And I’m glad I did.

Today I choose to live in the presence and no longer look to the past, for it is over and done. I am truly blessed and happy to be alive.

Thanks for reading!

Daisy

My Cancer Erasing Tips

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Smilies save my life!

Yes, I want you to take good look at this picture of me. It was a while ago, but heck I was looking pretty that day. It was mother’s day and I had just eaten lunch with my son. No one in the restaurant noticed that underneath the wig, I was bald as an eagle. No one noticed the permanent make-up on my brows. No one saw a woman who was having a rendezvous with cancer. Now, I do use this word “Rendezvous” deliberately, because I have banned all negative terminology when it comes to dealing with cancer. And now I’ll explain why.

We always use these, in my opinion, awful words like killing and fighting against cancer. Hell, that just makes me depressed. I don’t want any killing going on in my body. Why can’t we concentrate on words like promoting health or finding ways to help the cancer to go into remission? I, from the beginning of my encounter with cancer until now, never saw it as something negative in my life. I accepted the fact, that I had to deal with it and chose to do it in a positive way. I knew that my body was asking for help and that I had to change something in my life.

So I’m going to tell you what I did and still do. Every night as I lay in my warm and cuddly bed, I close my eyes and visual my immune system cells being smilies :). Yes, these cute little creatures, that sure do put a smile on my face. I picture them bouncing around my body, looking for those unhappy cancer cells. Those, who just couldn’t help it, after all the years of being inundated with negative feelings like anger, hate and bitterness and eventually got sick. So I see these smilies bouncing up and down and then as they come into contact with cancer cells, I literally see them hugging the unhappy cells to death. As they are being hugged, they fall into a deep sleep and just disappear into air. This picture makes me smile, because it’s filled with love and positive energy. After doing this, I fall asleep felling really happy.

There are so many studies, that prove that your thoughts have a great influence on your body chemistry. Does anyone read this stuff? I mean our bodies are amazing. Genuine wonders! I truly believe that a body has the power to heal itself. I mean, it always has. If we get a cut, then it heals all by itself. We don’t have to tell it to close the wound. Our bodies function perfectly for all of our lives. We never have to concentrate on repairing cells because it just does it automatically. So why question our bodies when something like cancer shows up? How about accepting it and learning the lesson that it’s trying to show you.

Other things that I believe are wonderful, when it comes to dealing with cancer are meditation and exercise. They have really helped me to feel healthy and stay happy all through my, as I call it “10 Minutes with Cancer”. I recently saw a report about how cancer cells live from sugar in our bodies. It’s called “Feed a cold, starve a cancer“. Since then, I’ve been eating very low carb and feel incredibly energetic. I thought it would be harder for me, because hell I’m just a chocolate freak. I sure do love eating this stuff. But, I don’t stress myself out. I just go with the flow and see where this incredible journey is taking me.

Funny enough as I’m writing, a picture of my favorite dessert “Death by Chocolate” just popped into my head. Now that would be my way to go. Hahaha.

Keep smiling!!!

Daisy

Why do we stress ourselves out?

Let it all out!

Stress?

Yesterday while having dinner with a friend, we had the most interesting conversation about people and stress. I thought this might be a good theme for Daisy’s question of the day? It started with a simple fact that a lot of women feel the necessity to tidy up the couch pillows and leave the kitchen sparkling before they go to bed. It doesn’t matter how tired they are, if they are sick or living alone. Everything has to look pico bello perfect. For whom? Well…. just in case the president of the United States stops by? Are you kidding me?!!! My friend thought about it for a second and said well “I do it because I feel that I have to it” and “I don’t like the mess”? I asked her if she didn’t tidy up the mess, would anyone complain about the pillows”. Well no” she said “just me!” I looked at her and said “Honey, you don’t have to do crap!”. The only thing that anyone has to do is breath and eat and ok go to the toilet, but basically we don’t HAVE TO DO anything.

I mean, we all know that stress is awful and being under stress for long periods can actually influence our health. So WHY do we do this to ourselves? Frankly, we have enough stress in our daily lives. At the job, at home, heck with our spouses. Wouldn’t it be so much better, if we took those 15-20 Minutes and spent it on ourselves? How about making yourself a cup of tea and looking out at the stars or putting on that moisture mask and flipping thru your favorites mags. Come on, there are lots of things that could make you feel good or put a smile on your face. I’m pretty sure that if you do this instead of folding that blanket and arranging the pillows, that the world won’t stop liking you. 

And just in case the president should stop by, then tell him that your cleaning lady just quit!

Hugs

Daisy

Why do we wait for others to make us happy, instead of doing it ourselves?

 

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Yes, I know you might have the kid and husband thing going on and maybe working that full-time job is keeping you busy. You don’t seem to find the time to do the things you want or that fun stuff that makes you smile. Maybe, you think that other people have to take care of these needs and buy you flowers or heck, just say nice things to you, so that you know that you are a great person. Well, I’m here to shake you up and tell you something else. You are a great person. Actually you are and should be the most important person in your life!!! “Huhhhh, but why?” I hear you asking. Well yes, because no one is really responsible for your happiness except for yourself!

I know, I know….we hear this all the time. And maybe, you are aware of this principle, but can’t seem to kind incorporate it into your life, because it’s just damn work or it’s hard. Fact is, that when you rely on others to bring you happiness, then you are on the road to disappointment. People can do nice things for you and of course, one should always be grateful for such people in our lives. But in the end, true happiness comes from being at peace with oneself from the inside. From knowing that you are wonderful (no matter what you think of yourself) and that you truly deserve to be treated like a goddess (or a god). You should treat yourself exactly how you would want people to treat you. That’s the first step. And I’ll repeat again: To treat yourself exactly how you would like people to treat you. Why? Because you are unique and special and no one on this earth is like you!

So why not start today with little things like buying yourself some flowers or getting that pedicure or just sitting in the sun and eating your favorite ice cream, which you used to eat when you were a kid. And why? Well, because you’re worthy and deserve it? Do things that make you smile. Things that make you feel good. I can almost guarantee you, that when you start doing this, after a while things will automatically change. People will treat you differently. You’ll just emanate joy and good vibrations from the inside and people will feel this.

When you are the one that takes good care of yourself and are constantly making yourself happy, no matter what it is that you are doing, then you will, eventually, get rid of the exceptions you put on others in being responsible for your bliss. As a result of this, you’ll experience less and less disappointment in others, because now you don’t expect others to bring you, what you are giving yourself.

Be good to yourself every moment of your life! Because you truly are worthy of it!

Daisy

Acceptance is the key

How do I go on when life gets really hard?

The first step is acceptance…I know this may sound hard. And it is. But if you can come to the point, where you truly believe that everything happens for a reason, you are on the right track. Yes, it easier said than done. But it is possible. It is in the moment, when you realize that the only thing that is really, really sure, is change. Everything always changes, nothing ever stays the same. You have to truly believe with all your heart, that you deserve something better. Sometimes we cling to the old because it’s comfortable and because we are afraid of change. Believe me I can speak from experience. But I can guarantee, that if you start taking care of you’re own needs rather than waiting for a man or anyone to do this, then things will change. When you realize that you have to love yourself before anyone can love you back. When you follow your bliss and do things that make you smile. Whatever that may be. When you are kind and loving to yourself and realize that you are the most important person on this planet. Forget about the past for its is done. You did your best. Everybody did the best that they could at that given moment. Forget about the future because life comes like it comes. Ask most people who plan things. Accept this moment, even if its painful and know deep in your heart, that it will get better in the moment you let go and let happen.

Why do we spend so much time in the past?

If you are going back over your life, focusing on the difficulties of the past, you are just projecting more difficulties into the now. If there’s one wonderful thing that you can do for yourself now, then letting go of the past would have to be it. Yes, I know how difficult this is because I’ve been there.

foto.jpg Spending my time lamenting, hating, being in a state of anger at people or events or even regretting things I didn’t say in the past. What I realized over the years was that doing this prevented me from enjoying this moment and from seeing the little but wonderful things in life. If you are spending most of the time reliving events of the past, you are missing out on what’s going on in front of your face. Also, if you are holding on to negative feelings or blaming someone, then you are taking it all with you into the present and harming yourself. Think about it!. Maybe this could haven been a moment that was important for you, a moment that would have given you a clue as how to go on, or maybe to change something. Maybe someone smiled at you, but you didn’t see it, because you were mad about the past. So, you just missed it. Isn’t that a shame?

How do you start? Well, how about right away, knowing that I truly believe in you! I started reminding myself every single day to remain in the present and since then everything changed for me. At first it was hard and I often had to bring myself to this moment like most of the day. But, as time went on, it became easier and these days I’m living about 90% in the present. I now see and am so grateful for the many splendid things that where there before, but I just couldn’t see. Simple things, like finally seeing the true color of  my friends’ eyes or the beautiful daisy’s growing just across the road. Funny enough, they were always there, waiting for me to take in their beauty. They waited patiently for me. Life is wonderful!

Seed of Inspiration

Today is the day to change just one thing in your life. To break the cycle and do something different from what you’ve been doing until now. If you want to see different results, you have to take a different action!

Why not buy yourself beautiful flowers, just because you’re worth it!

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