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Why do we spend so much time in the past?

If you are going back over your life, focusing on the difficulties of the past, you are just projecting more difficulties into the now. If there’s one wonderful thing that you can do for yourself now, then letting go of the past would have to be it. Yes, I know how difficult this is because I’ve been there.

foto.jpg Spending my time lamenting, hating, being in a state of anger at people or events or even regretting things I didn’t say in the past. What I realized over the years was that doing this prevented me from enjoying this moment and from seeing the little but wonderful things in life. If you are spending most of the time reliving events of the past, you are missing out on what’s going on in front of your face. Also, if you are holding on to negative feelings or blaming someone, then you are taking it all with you into the present and harming yourself. Think about it!. Maybe this could haven been a moment that was important for you, a moment that would have given you a clue as how to go on, or maybe to change something. Maybe someone smiled at you, but you didn’t see it, because you were mad about the past. So, you just missed it. Isn’t that a shame?

How do you start? Well, how about right away, knowing that I truly believe in you! I started reminding myself every single day to remain in the present and since then everything changed for me. At first it was hard and I often had to bring myself to this moment like most of the day. But, as time went on, it became easier and these days I’m living about 90% in the present. I now see and am so grateful for the many splendid things that where there before, but I just couldn’t see. Simple things, like finally seeing the true color of  my friends’ eyes or the beautiful daisy’s growing just across the road. Funny enough, they were always there, waiting for me to take in their beauty. They waited patiently for me. Life is wonderful!

Why do we have to get sick before we realize the truth?

Why does a woman have to wait to get sick, in this case breast cancer, before she realizes how precious every single moment of this wonderful life is?

Breast cancer is not a death sentence! And even if we don’t have that much time left and some of us may die in the process, it’s really not about what we haven’t done or what we won’t be able to do in the future. It’s really about what we are doing now. At this exact moment!

Are we doing the things that make us happy? Are we taking the time to smell the flowers and hear the birds sing? Or are we wasting our precious time lamenting and hiding behind the sickness? Yes, sicknesses are hard sometimes. But doesn’t every sickness help us realize something new about ourselves? Maybe how strong or vulnerable we are? But thinking how terrible it might get or wasting your precious energy fearing a possible future won’t change a thing. It only contributes to missing out on what is going on now. Are we trying to control things, when really the only thing we can control, is this moment? Think about it! Why not make this moment a happy one? And then the next and then the next. Then when it’s time to go, can say we did good.

So do something that puts a smile on your face today!