Archive | June 2013

Making your needs a priority

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Did you ever have a day, after a long week, where you just wanted to be alone, maybe catch up on your reading or just relax on your couch? And then it’s like for some unexplainable and mystical reason, the moment you are about to sit your tired butt on that soft and cuddly couch, that the phone rings. At first, you think “oh man, maybe I shouldn’t get it”, but then you pick up, because after all, you want to be there for your friends. So you do this and one hour later, after you’ve hung up, you look at the clock and think “damn”, but it’s ok, because you still have the rest of the day. So you throw yourself into the arms of that awaiting couch, once again open the book and feel a sense of joy because starting now, you are going to relax.

Two pages into your book, you take a sip of tea and then you get a text message from your other friend, whose having marriage problems. She’s not feeling good at all. You read it and think “oh, maybe she needs me” so you answer that text message very quickly and after the tenth message back and forth you realize, this is going to take some time. You call her up at her request because she needs some advise. After one hour and a half of hearing her pour her heart out, you tell her that everything is going to be alright and if she needs you, you will always be there for her. You hang up feeling kind of low, look at the clock and think “damn, I really need to chill”.

So once again, you open your book, look at the page you last saw and realize you’ve forgotten everything you’ve read until this point. So now you have to start from the beginning. You read everything very quickly again, remember what it was about and are again filled with joy that staring NOW you have time. Just as the book is getting interesting, the phone rings again……

So by now you are getting my point. In the worse case scenario, it’s already getting late and you’ve just spent your day, listening to other people’s problems, when all you wanted to do was take care of yourself for a change. In the end you feel empty and probably upset because you just spent all your positive energy on other people. It might be that they passed on some of their negative energy on to you and now your day is kind of ruined for that matter. The question I ask now is: Why do we let others treat us like garbage cans?

When I say this, I mean why do we allow others to load their negative crap out on us? Please, don’t get me wrong. We all want to be there for someone in need, but does this mean taking care of the emotional needs of other people before ours? Is it really a bad thing, to take care of your own emotional needs first? Is is really selfish to love yourself, do something only for yourself and make your happiness a priority? Think about it!

One thing I realized in the mist of my illness, was that if I don’t take care of myself first, then I won’t be able to be there for someone when they really need me. Also, that I’m not here to save the world. It is not my responsibility to try to have all the answers for all my friends and family. The moment I got this, was the moment everything took a change for the better. I know that sometimes it’s hard because many women are brought up with the mentality as mothers and wives, to cater to everyone. My thought is: No one should have to be a garbage can taking in all the pain, sorrow, anger and judgement that others let out of their systems. Hell, it’s no wonder that sometimes we whine up feeling sick after being inundated with the emotional load that others unknowingly throw out at us. I think they sometimes forget, that we too all have our own problems and worries to take care of.

So, the next time you feel like you want to escape from the stress of life and do something for yourself, then I would suggest screening your calls.  Just in case, grandma calls with some good news. Remember, that you can only be a great and true friend, when you take care of your needs first and make your happiness a priority.

Thanks for reading!

Daisy

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My decision to start a ketogenic nutrition

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Well today Daisy’s question of the day is: Can a chocoholic and pasta eating freak like me, just stop eating carbohydrates for longer than one day?

If you would have asked me, before I read “Starve a cancer, feed a cold“, which I accidentally (is there such a thing?) happen to run into on this website, I would have definitely given you a big “hell no!” But after reading it, I was honestly shocked, disgusted and yeah…just shocked again. I mean, if you’ve read my story, then you know that last year I was diagnosed with breast cancer. After I had my 5 minutes with cancer (that’s what I call it now), I do recall getting a nutritional program recommending that I eat lots of carbohydrates for energy. So basically that’s what I did. I ate lots of pasta, bread, rice etc. in the hopes of nurturing my body and making it healthy again. And, due to my positive aspect of enjoying life one day at a time, I must say I splurged often and ate tons (okay not tons, but heck quite a bit) of chocolate and sweets for that matter.

Reading the above mentioned blog, sent me literally on a mission. On a mission to find out the truth about the possible effects of sugar on potential cancer cells and/or tumors in the body. I spent many hours researching and in the end said to myself, if this is something that is known for over more than 50 years, why aren’t we doing this? Why is this not common knowledge?

I mean I live in Germany and maybe the message hasn’t gotten out here fast enough. I definitely am aware that sometimes, it does takes a while before one can to get a copy of a good american book and even a great film, but in terms of medicine…heelloooo!!! So I took a deep breath, looked at myself in the mirror and said “Girlfriend you better try this!” Just so that you get a clear picture of my situation, I’ve been feeling great ever since I stopped the chemotherapy. Recently I’ve had some blood work done and my results are truly amazing, after 4 months of meditating, letting go of the past, living in the moment and seeing my cancer as a sign from my body, that I needed to change something. I was supposed to have had 7 Chemotherapys plus radiation but only did two. During this process, I realized that I would rather die, than to put that poison into my body, but that was really a personal decision. I take my hat off to each and every cancer patient, who does all of the sessions recommended. Every single one of them deserves a medal of courage and strength for what they go through during this time with their bodies.

So back to the question of the day. Is it possible? YEEESSSS, it’s really possible! From the moment I decided that I was going to cut down on my carbohydrate/sugar intake and seeing it as something proactive for my health, I realized that I was, yet again, doing something for myself and on my own. I was taking care of me! So now let’s get down to the facts. Getting started was practically very easy. I went shopping and stacked my fridge with everything I needed and then I began eating the recommended protein, fat (I looovee avocados and nuts!!)and vegetables and surprisingly enough, I felt great and really full after every meal. I didn’t even crave any sweets for about 1 week.

Then came the temptation of a birthday party. At first, I didn’t want to eat cake, but I didn’t want to insult my friend, so I wound of eating a small piece. All I can say is: Big mistake! After that, I craved sweets for 2 days. But I didn’t give in to my craving and so I ate some almonds or sucked on a teaspoon of natural peanut butter and then everything was okay again.

It’s been almost 4 weeks now. Have I managed to keep eating low carb? Well, yes I have and I’m damn proud of it. I don’t think I’ve ever gone for more than one day without eating some kind of sugar shit. But I have to say, it’s pretty amazing, because I feel wonderful. I have tons of energy and I’m not tired in the afternoon like I used to be.

Okay, ok it’s only been 4 weeks I know and tomorrow is my birthday. Well, I’m planning on baking a low carb chocolate blueberry cake and a normal cheesecake. Lots of friends are coming over, who don’t even know that I’m doing this low carb thing. But it’s kind of exciting for me. I know that I can manage to keep doing this, if I only stay away from sugar (which has become totally easy because I sprinkle everything I used to drink or eat with sugar now with cinnamon). So there you have it!

I will eventually have to raise my carb intake, because little Miss Daisy doesn’t want to lose more weight. Reminder: I want to cut down on my sugar intake, stay healthy and eventually starve some cancer cells that might have been resistant to my “smily” therapy. You can read about this here on my blog. I will definitely keep you informed of my progress with my new way of life. Maybe someone can share their experience with me. I sure would love it!

Thanks for reading.

Hugs

Daisy