If you are going back over your life, focusing on the difficulties of the past, you are just projecting more difficulties into the now. If there’s one wonderful thing that you can do for yourself now, then letting go of the past would have to be it. Yes, I know how difficult this is because I’ve been there.
Spending my time lamenting, hating, being in a state of anger at people or events or even regretting things I didn’t say in the past. What I realized over the years was that doing this prevented me from enjoying this moment and from seeing the little but wonderful things in life. If you are spending most of the time reliving events of the past, you are missing out on what’s going on in front of your face. Also, if you are holding on to negative feelings or blaming someone, then you are taking it all with you into the present and harming yourself. Think about it!. Maybe this could haven been a moment that was important for you, a moment that would have given you a clue as how to go on, or maybe to change something. Maybe someone smiled at you, but you didn’t see it, because you were mad about the past. So, you just missed it. Isn’t that a shame?
How do you start? Well, how about right away, knowing that I truly believe in you! I started reminding myself every single day to remain in the present and since then everything changed for me. At first it was hard and I often had to bring myself to this moment like most of the day. But, as time went on, it became easier and these days I’m living about 90% in the present. I now see and am so grateful for the many splendid things that where there before, but I just couldn’t see. Simple things, like finally seeing the true color of my friends’ eyes or the beautiful daisy’s growing just across the road. Funny enough, they were always there, waiting for me to take in their beauty. They waited patiently for me. Life is wonderful!
Today is the day to change just one thing in your life. To break the cycle and do something different from what you’ve been doing until now. If you want to see different results, you have to take a different action!
Why not buy yourself beautiful flowers, just because you’re worth it!
- Flowers of Hope (swannesong.wordpress.com)
It is because we’ve lived a life full of sin and are afraid of judgment, when we come to the pearly gates? Or because we want to hold on to the people or to material things that we now have? It is because we haven’t done everything we planned? For of religious reasons? Whatever the reason may be, I’m here to tell you that it’s time, to let go of the fear and the negative feelings associated with it.
We all know that eventually everyone has to die. That’s a given. Change and death are the only sure things in this life. So why not accept it as something totally normal? Like brushing your teeth everyday. I know that what I’m saying may sound hard for some, but if we accept what is part of life, then we can let go and enjoy the time that we have left. We all know that we don’t necessarily have to be sick to die. This can happen at any time, any day in the presence of lots of different circumstances.
A dear friend of mine was clinically dead after a heart operation. Fortunately, the doctors brought her back and she was able talk to me about it. She described it as one of the most beautiful experiences she’s ever had. She also saw this light that people talk about and felt incredible feelings of warmth and love. We’ve all heard about these experiences sometime right? This was a breaking point for me in my life. I realized that when we accept it, then the fear starts to disappear.
I also knew a guy, who drowned 3 times while she was deep-sea diving. He also described the experience as being wonderful. He had always said, that if he had to die, drowning would be the way. Sounds horrible! But no, for him it was a wonderful experience. I remember the feeling of peace that vibrated out of him as he told me his story. He said that he saw his life flash through his eyes, also saw the light and had feelings of utter peace and love.
I’m really fortunate to have these people in my life, because they showed me that there is absolutely no reason to be afraid of dying. Of course, we will miss out on a lot of things and won’t see the people we love anymore. Can I share a secret with you? We do remain alive and that is in the hearts of the people who love us. So we won’t be able to eat chocolate and drink wine or see the sunset again. So my question now is: What the hell are you waiting for? Do these things NOW!!!! Do the things that make you happy. Meet the people who make you smile! Give someone a hug! Stop thinking about the past or about the future. Invest your energy and time in the NOW. For that’s the only thing that you’ve got.
Burn the candles!
Use the nice sheets! Drink the champagne!
Stop saving it for a special occasion!
Today is special!!!!
Why does a woman have to wait to get sick, in this case breast cancer, before she realizes how precious every single moment of this wonderful life is?
Breast cancer is not a death sentence! And even if we don’t have that much time left and some of us may die in the process, it’s really not about what we haven’t done or what we won’t be able to do in the future. It’s really about what we are doing now. At this exact moment!
Are we doing the things that make us happy? Are we taking the time to smell the flowers and hear the birds sing? Or are we wasting our precious time lamenting and hiding behind the sickness? Yes, sicknesses are hard sometimes. But doesn’t every sickness help us realize something new about ourselves? Maybe how strong or vulnerable we are? But thinking how terrible it might get or wasting your precious energy fearing a possible future won’t change a thing. It only contributes to missing out on what is going on now. Are we trying to control things, when really the only thing we can control, is this moment? Think about it! Why not make this moment a happy one? And then the next and then the next. Then when it’s time to go, can say we did good.
So do something that puts a smile on your face today!
The tiny seed knew that in order to grow,it needed to be dropped in to dirt, covered in darkness and struggle to reach to the light.