Archive | May 2013

Why do we wait for others to make us happy, instead of doing it ourselves?

 

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Yes, I know you might have the kid and husband thing going on and maybe working that full-time job is keeping you busy. You don’t seem to find the time to do the things you want or that fun stuff that makes you smile. Maybe, you think that other people have to take care of these needs and buy you flowers or heck, just say nice things to you, so that you know that you are a great person. Well, I’m here to shake you up and tell you something else. You are a great person. Actually you are and should be the most important person in your life!!! “Huhhhh, but why?” I hear you asking. Well yes, because no one is really responsible for your happiness except for yourself!

I know, I know….we hear this all the time. And maybe, you are aware of this principle, but can’t seem to kind incorporate it into your life, because it’s just damn work or it’s hard. Fact is, that when you rely on others to bring you happiness, then you are on the road to disappointment. People can do nice things for you and of course, one should always be grateful for such people in our lives. But in the end, true happiness comes from being at peace with oneself from the inside. From knowing that you are wonderful (no matter what you think of yourself) and that you truly deserve to be treated like a goddess (or a god). You should treat yourself exactly how you would want people to treat you. That’s the first step. And I’ll repeat again: To treat yourself exactly how you would like people to treat you. Why? Because you are unique and special and no one on this earth is like you!

So why not start today with little things like buying yourself some flowers or getting that pedicure or just sitting in the sun and eating your favorite ice cream, which you used to eat when you were a kid. And why? Well, because you’re worthy and deserve it? Do things that make you smile. Things that make you feel good. I can almost guarantee you, that when you start doing this, after a while things will automatically change. People will treat you differently. You’ll just emanate joy and good vibrations from the inside and people will feel this.

When you are the one that takes good care of yourself and are constantly making yourself happy, no matter what it is that you are doing, then you will, eventually, get rid of the exceptions you put on others in being responsible for your bliss. As a result of this, you’ll experience less and less disappointment in others, because now you don’t expect others to bring you, what you are giving yourself.

Be good to yourself every moment of your life! Because you truly are worthy of it!

Daisy

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Acceptance is the key

How do I go on when life gets really hard?

The first step is acceptance…I know this may sound hard. And it is. But if you can come to the point, where you truly believe that everything happens for a reason, you are on the right track. Yes, it easier said than done. But it is possible. It is in the moment, when you realize that the only thing that is really, really sure, is change. Everything always changes, nothing ever stays the same. You have to truly believe with all your heart, that you deserve something better. Sometimes we cling to the old because it’s comfortable and because we are afraid of change. Believe me I can speak from experience. But I can guarantee, that if you start taking care of you’re own needs rather than waiting for a man or anyone to do this, then things will change. When you realize that you have to love yourself before anyone can love you back. When you follow your bliss and do things that make you smile. Whatever that may be. When you are kind and loving to yourself and realize that you are the most important person on this planet. Forget about the past for its is done. You did your best. Everybody did the best that they could at that given moment. Forget about the future because life comes like it comes. Ask most people who plan things. Accept this moment, even if its painful and know deep in your heart, that it will get better in the moment you let go and let happen.

Why do we spend so much time in the past?

If you are going back over your life, focusing on the difficulties of the past, you are just projecting more difficulties into the now. If there’s one wonderful thing that you can do for yourself now, then letting go of the past would have to be it. Yes, I know how difficult this is because I’ve been there.

foto.jpg Spending my time lamenting, hating, being in a state of anger at people or events or even regretting things I didn’t say in the past. What I realized over the years was that doing this prevented me from enjoying this moment and from seeing the little but wonderful things in life. If you are spending most of the time reliving events of the past, you are missing out on what’s going on in front of your face. Also, if you are holding on to negative feelings or blaming someone, then you are taking it all with you into the present and harming yourself. Think about it!. Maybe this could haven been a moment that was important for you, a moment that would have given you a clue as how to go on, or maybe to change something. Maybe someone smiled at you, but you didn’t see it, because you were mad about the past. So, you just missed it. Isn’t that a shame?

How do you start? Well, how about right away, knowing that I truly believe in you! I started reminding myself every single day to remain in the present and since then everything changed for me. At first it was hard and I often had to bring myself to this moment like most of the day. But, as time went on, it became easier and these days I’m living about 90% in the present. I now see and am so grateful for the many splendid things that where there before, but I just couldn’t see. Simple things, like finally seeing the true color of  my friends’ eyes or the beautiful daisy’s growing just across the road. Funny enough, they were always there, waiting for me to take in their beauty. They waited patiently for me. Life is wonderful!

Seed of Inspiration

Today is the day to change just one thing in your life. To break the cycle and do something different from what you’ve been doing until now. If you want to see different results, you have to take a different action!

Why not buy yourself beautiful flowers, just because you’re worth it!

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Why are we so afraid of death?

It is because we’ve lived a life full of sin and are afraid of judgment, when we come to the pearly gates? Or because we want to hold on to the people or to material things that we now have? It is because we haven’t done everything we planned? For of religious reasons? Whatever the reason may be, I’m here to tell you that it’s time, to let go of the fear and the negative feelings associated with it.

We all know that eventually everyone has to die. That’s a given. Change and death are the only sure things in this life. So why not accept it as something totally normal? Like brushing your teeth everyday. I know that what I’m saying may sound hard for some, but if we accept what is part of life, then we can let go and enjoy the time that we have left. We all know that we don’t necessarily have to be sick to die. This can happen at any time, any day in the presence of lots of different circumstances.

A dear friend of mine was clinically dead after a heart operation. Fortunately, the doctors brought her back and she was able talk to me about it. She described it as one of the most beautiful experiences she’s ever had. She also saw this light that people talk about and felt incredible feelings of warmth and love. We’ve all heard about these experiences sometime right? This was a breaking point for me in my life. I realized that when we accept it, then the fear starts to disappear.

I also knew a guy, who drowned 3 times while she was deep-sea diving. He also described the experience as being wonderful. He had always said, that if he had to die, drowning would be the way. Sounds horrible! But no, for him it was a wonderful experience. I remember the feeling of peace that vibrated out of him as he told me his story. He said that he saw his life flash through his eyes, also saw the light and had feelings of utter peace and love.

I’m really fortunate to have these people in my life, because they showed me that there is absolutely no reason to be afraid of dying. Of course, we will miss out on a lot of things and won’t see the people we love anymore. Can I share a secret with you? We do remain alive and that is in the hearts of the people who love us. So we won’t be able to eat chocolate and drink wine or see the sunset again. So my question now is: What the hell are you waiting for? Do these things NOW!!!! Do the things that make you happy. Meet the people who make you smile! Give someone a hug! Stop thinking about the past or about the future. Invest your energy and time in the NOW. For that’s the only thing that you’ve got.