The Act of Giving

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LOVE IS GIVING

Good morning everybody!

First of all I’d like to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for liking my blog.

I am lucky to have been given the opportunity to change many negative things in my life. The last weeks were a time of transformation and learning in the deepest of ways. I am always amazed at the precious lessons that just come when one is truly ready.

One of these is the act of giving. Are you a giving person? Or do you expect people to give first, before you do something in return? Think about it…And most importantly, does it come from the heart?

Growing up poor, I never had much, but I remember always giving everything I had. I shared gladly and never expected anything in return. When I look back, I think that is one of the reasons, why I received so much fortune in my adult life. However, over the years my attitude changed and somewhere along the way, I lost this incredible act of giving.

During the time when I was having what I call “my 5 minutes with cancer” (that my reference to it), I experienced an incredible amount of love and giving from friends, who gave without even thinking about it. Friends who bathed me when I couldn’t raise my arms, who stayed with me when I was afraid of being alone, friends that drove me to my appointments when I was weak or friends who took me to the hospital in the middle of the night, when I couldn’t breath. Those were acts of giving, that I will never forget.

This world has turned into a selfish one, where people are only thinking about what they can get out of any situation. It’s a “me, me, me” society. Few give without expecting in return, not knowing that that is the key to living a plentiful life. When you begin to make giving a part of your life, just for the act of giving and not for the act of receiving, your life will take a dramatic change. Why? Because when you give from your heart, you make lots of room to receive. It’s like if you have a handful of peanuts in your hands. If you hold on to them all the time, then you will never have space to receive more peanuts. I know it’s a simple example, but that is just they way it is.

So today’s challenge: Do something nice for someone you care about, just because you want to and just because your heart tells you to. Whether it’s a phone call with loving words, some flowers or maybe baking them a cake. I’m sure that you will feel wonderful because you’ve made someone smile and feel special…and that my friends is one of the most incredible feelings, you can experience living here, right now on this amazing planet.

Much love,

Daisy

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TRANSFORMATION

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HAPPY NEW YEAR MY FRIENDS!!!

As I look back at 2013, I see a year filled with endings, changes and a big transformation in my life. Still, I am filled with gratitude and happiness even if, I muss say it was a trying year. I am thankful for still being here and enjoying every single minute of this wonderful life.

I am more focused and aware of how important the hard times are, in order for us to grow and become the incredible humans that we all are. I have learned to trust more in THE Higher Power and remember that, in that moment, where difficulties arrive, I cannot see the bigger picture. I have also learned to stop listening to that VOICE inside my head, telling me that I’m not good enough and that I won’t amount to anything. That was a hard one! Finally, I have managed, most of the time, to stay in the NOW, be present and not go back to the past or put my projections onto the future.

So in the end, it was an incredible year for my growth and for my development. 2013 strengthened my desire to give more love, judge less, have trust and patience that everything in my life is exactly the way it is supposed to be.

For the first time, I have no idea where I am going, but I am not afraid. I have no job and this week, I was told that I have 3 months to move out of my apartment. 2 years ago, I would have been in total panic and stressed out. At the moment, I see life like an unfinished book and I am on a journey. I have no idea how it will turn out, still, I am totally excited and curious where life will take me. I truly believe that wherever I end up will be the right place for me.

Now that is some good piece of news….hahahaha!

Thanks for reading….. much Love Daisy

 

Perfection – Everything happens for a reason…..

Everything happens for reason…….

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Good morning my friends! I hope you that are doing as great as I am today. Well, now you are probably asking yourself, what has happened to me so that I feel so great. Did I get a great new job? Did I fall in love? Did I win the lottery? …..hmmmm. The truth is, that absolutely nothing is happening. Ok…and that’s good?

First, I’ll tell you what I would have done one year ago before my illness. I would have panicked and tried to find something to worry about. I would have gone crazy thinking about the fact that I don’t have a job and the fact that my finances are diminishing and that the man I feel in love with, turned out to be just the opposite of what I thought. I would have been devastated and unhappy. But today, I sit here quietly, patiently and truly determined that everything is exactly the way it is supposed to be. How is this even possible? Yes, I’ve learned to let go and let GOD (or the universe or whatever you want to call it :D)

This is a major transformation for me and you know what? It works. I’ve learned to accept the situation that I’m going thru right now and believe with all my heart, that it is exactly the place where I need to be. I used to live in what I called UNCERTAINTY. That means not being sure what was coming, but also not believing that everything was the way it should be. Kind of like hoping for something better, but not believing something great would happen.

Now I am living in CERTAINTY. These changes have taken place over the last 6 weeks after everything in my life seemed to fall apart yet again. I could have said “didn’t I have enough”, but no!!! I refused to see myself as a victim of life. Instead, I have realize one thing and this is that we all have at some point difficulties with this word called PATIENCE. Sometimes we have very little of it. We all seem to want everything as fast as possible, even if in the end, we know what great changes needs TIME.

So, I am sitting here with a smile on my face, sharing my thoughts with you and hoping that you can realize too, that everything happens for a reason. Everything is perfect, just like our bodies and this universe. Everything works in total perfection and this is the way our lives work too. So, even if we can’t see the connection and the “why” of it all at this time, my friends, and you too are going thru some bad times at the moment, know for sure that there is one.

I can guarantee you, that when you let go and let life make its way and truly believe that there a lesson to be learned, everything begins to get easier and you will be filled an inner peace that will fill your very existence. And that alone is truly comforting.

Thanks for reading!

Big hug.

Daisy

Did you ever hear about Mesothelioma Cancer?

Well, here I am helping out a fellow blogger on spreading the word about the cause of this type of cancer. My father suffered many years from the effects of asbestos. Maybe you can help us in getting the word out there too. Those who wish to learn more about mesothelioma can get more information at the Mesothelioma Cancer Alliance www.mesothelioma.com. Thanks and much love!

Did You Know Facts

Every moment is precious….

ImageRecently, I had an experience that made me see, once again the vulnerability of our existence. We plan for tomorrow, put things off for another day  and work like idiots, believing that we will have more time in the future. Well, I am here to remind you that your are on the wrong path.

Last week I was driving on the highway, when suddenly I lost control of my car. On it’s own, it started getting faster and faster. I was a bit surprised and gently stepped on the brakes. I have an automatic, so it’s relatively easy to drive. The brakes weren’t working at all. I was terrified but I tried not to panic. Then I carefully looked under my legs to see what was going on. To my surprise, my rug had slipped forward and now it was stuck, so that I couldn’t brake and that the gas pedal was being forced down. OMG. There was nothing I could do, since I was driving on the fast lane. All the while my car, was getting faster and faster and the highway was very busy.

To make the story short, in a lucky moment I moved across to the emergency lane, where my car kept getting faster. I don’t know what I did, but my car made terrible noises as I pulled the hand brake and shifted into all sorts of gears, before I put it on PARK and turned the key. Thank God, at that moment the car stopped.

As you imagine, I was shaking and tears ran down my face. My heart was pounding like crazy, but I was so grateful that nothing happened. I was still there. I don’t want to think about what could have happened, if I hadn’t been able to reach the emergency lane at the right moment. Once again, I was made conscious of the fact, that your existence can be wiped out in the blink of an eye.

So with this said, I want to spread the message of how precious every moment of your life is and of the importance of making the best of it. Stop worrying about what will come because like I said before, no one will ever really know. Life comes like it comes. Today, I would like to encourage you, from this moment on, to start doing things that make you smile. Enjoy things that make you feel good. Don’t save the champaign in fridge for a special moment or wait to buy that pretty dress or those flowers that you love for tomorrow. Do it today, for today is special! This moment is special! 

And you want to know something else: YOU ARE SPECIAL and YOU TRULY DESERVE IT!

Have a wonderful time!

Hugs

Daisy

One Year After My Diagnosis

Hi Guys!

Here I am reporting to you one year after my breast cancer diagnosis. First of all, I want to express my deepest gratitude for still being here on this wonderful planet, on this wonderful journey that keeps getting more and more interesting as time passes by. So many emotional, soul touching experiences and changes.

Wow my hair is so long now! 

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In this one year I have become another person. When I look back at what this journey did to me, I can truly say that I don’t regret one single moment of this illness. If I wouldn’t have gotten it, I would still be in the same situation and doing the same shit I did for many years and this, my friends, was stressing out myself as well as my loved ones. Planning my life, worrying about what could go wrong and making everyone responsible when things didn’t turn out the way I wanted them to be.

I got upset about things, that today seem so insignificant and so small. I sowed the seeds of self-hatred, dissatisfaction and self-destruction and then passed them on to others. Of course, the whole time not being aware of the damage I was doing to my body and soul.

Getting breast cancer was the only way to get the message thru to me. I guess. Because of this experience, I was given a new chance. A chance to see life thru a different set of eyes. Now I can stop and smell the daisies. I can enjoy the sun caressing my skin and the wind kissing my face. I can feel life pulsating thru my whole body and for this I am so grateful.

I can leave the dishes in the sink, an unmade bed, the crumbs on the floor, the water spots on the mirror and the messy pillow arrangement on the couch and guess what? Life still goes on and everyone still loves me exactly the way I am. Can you believe this? Well, sometimes I can’t because just one year ago, I thought that if I wasn’t perfect, then nobody would like me. What a ridiculous thought! But, yes, that is the way it was back then. And because I wasn’t perfect, someone had to pay for my unhappiness.

Right now I feel so blessed and although I don’t know, if I will be there in one year, what I know for sure, is that I will go on taking in every single moment of this precious life. I won’t waste one second of my time living in the past or in the future. I will live right now in this moment. I will live in the present and suck in all the beauty and all the magic that this wonderful life has to give. I will be good to myself and to others. I will share and enjoy the love and the patience and the understanding that came to me at the moment when I let go of my old self and embraced a new me.

Much love!

Daisy

P.S. Happy Birthday Dad. Wish you were here!

Making your needs a priority

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Did you ever have a day, after a long week, where you just wanted to be alone, maybe catch up on your reading or just relax on your couch? And then it’s like for some unexplainable and mystical reason, the moment you are about to sit your tired butt on that soft and cuddly couch, that the phone rings. At first, you think “oh man, maybe I shouldn’t get it”, but then you pick up, because after all, you want to be there for your friends. So you do this and one hour later, after you’ve hung up, you look at the clock and think “damn”, but it’s ok, because you still have the rest of the day. So you throw yourself into the arms of that awaiting couch, once again open the book and feel a sense of joy because starting now, you are going to relax.

Two pages into your book, you take a sip of tea and then you get a text message from your other friend, whose having marriage problems. She’s not feeling good at all. You read it and think “oh, maybe she needs me” so you answer that text message very quickly and after the tenth message back and forth you realize, this is going to take some time. You call her up at her request because she needs some advise. After one hour and a half of hearing her pour her heart out, you tell her that everything is going to be alright and if she needs you, you will always be there for her. You hang up feeling kind of low, look at the clock and think “damn, I really need to chill”.

So once again, you open your book, look at the page you last saw and realize you’ve forgotten everything you’ve read until this point. So now you have to start from the beginning. You read everything very quickly again, remember what it was about and are again filled with joy that staring NOW you have time. Just as the book is getting interesting, the phone rings again……

So by now you are getting my point. In the worse case scenario, it’s already getting late and you’ve just spent your day, listening to other people’s problems, when all you wanted to do was take care of yourself for a change. In the end you feel empty and probably upset because you just spent all your positive energy on other people. It might be that they passed on some of their negative energy on to you and now your day is kind of ruined for that matter. The question I ask now is: Why do we let others treat us like garbage cans?

When I say this, I mean why do we allow others to load their negative crap out on us? Please, don’t get me wrong. We all want to be there for someone in need, but does this mean taking care of the emotional needs of other people before ours? Is it really a bad thing, to take care of your own emotional needs first? Is is really selfish to love yourself, do something only for yourself and make your happiness a priority? Think about it!

One thing I realized in the mist of my illness, was that if I don’t take care of myself first, then I won’t be able to be there for someone when they really need me. Also, that I’m not here to save the world. It is not my responsibility to try to have all the answers for all my friends and family. The moment I got this, was the moment everything took a change for the better. I know that sometimes it’s hard because many women are brought up with the mentality as mothers and wives, to cater to everyone. My thought is: No one should have to be a garbage can taking in all the pain, sorrow, anger and judgement that others let out of their systems. Hell, it’s no wonder that sometimes we whine up feeling sick after being inundated with the emotional load that others unknowingly throw out at us. I think they sometimes forget, that we too all have our own problems and worries to take care of.

So, the next time you feel like you want to escape from the stress of life and do something for yourself, then I would suggest screening your calls.  Just in case, grandma calls with some good news. Remember, that you can only be a great and true friend, when you take care of your needs first and make your happiness a priority.

Thanks for reading!

Daisy